Sexual harm

Sexual harm is any sort of sexual contact, act or behaviour towards another person who does not give consent. Sexual harm is serious and can have long-term effects.

Reporting sexual harm

Phone 111 if you or someone else is in immediate danger or need urgent medical help.

If you do not need urgent help, go somewhere you feel safe, such as the home of a close friend or whānau. If you feel able to, tell someone you trust what has happened.

For advice and support, contact Safe to talk. This is a free 24/7 confidential service for anyone looking for help to do with sexual harm. You can get help by phone 0800 044 334, text 4334 or their website.

Safe to talk (external link)

What sexual harm is

Sexual harm is when someone:

  • touches you sexually when you do not want them to—for example, touching your genitals or breasts
  • makes you touch another person or yourself sexually when you do not want to
  • makes you watch sexual activity or watches you doing sexual things when you do not want to
  • touches you or makes you do something sexual that makes you feel uncomfortable, threatened or scared.

If you have been sexually harmed, it is important to know there are people who want to help you and you do not have to go through this alone.


Getting help for sexual harm

It is best to see a doctor or nurse as soon as possible if you have been sexually harmed. They can make you are physically okay, treat any injuries and give you medication if you need it.

In most areas you can see a sexual abuse assessment and treatment service health professional. If you prefer, you can see your own healthcare provider or go to a hospital.

Find a sexual abuse assessment and treatment service — medsac (external link)

You can contact the police just to ask for advice and to find out what your options are. You do not have to do this straight away and it does not mean you have to make a formal complaint. The police can also put you in touch with people who can help. Their website has information and videos about support services, medical check-ups and what happens when you go to a police station.

What can I do if I have been sexually assaulted? — New Zealand Police (external link)